Monday, August 17, 2009

A Mother's Guilt

Today was my baby girl's first day at daycare. In the days leading up to this, I have been feeling so guilty for putting her in daycare. My older kids were both in daycare, but not until they were 2 years old. Putting Kacey in daycare was pretty much unavoidable because I have to finish my degree (or go to work to pay off my gazillion dollars worth of student loans). As I left her this morning, she was smiling. Her little eyes were twinkling as they took in all the new toys she was going to get to play with. Basically, she was happy. So, why then, as I left the building was I so racked with guilt over leaving her?

As mothers, we feel guilty over so much when it comes to our kids. They get sick, and we somehow think we could've prevented it. We leave them at daycare, and we feel like we are abandoning our precious ones. Give them formula and feel bad for not giving them breastmilk. As the kiddos get older, tell them no and then feel guilty for not giving in. It is a never ending thing. I don't understand why we put ourselves through it. My kids are healthy, happy and well-adjusted. Obviously, I don't need to feel guilty about stupid stuff all the time. Geez, if only I could be the dad (not really, but you know what I mean)!


  1. Stopping by from SITs.... Aw honey, I know exactly how you feel! It will pass, though, trust me. I went through it when I worked. And as a stay at home mom, I can tell you that we go through guilt to. I feel guilty at times that I'm not contributing to the finances. I think we moms do feel guilt alot because it seems like society just wants sooo much of us, and there's just so much pressure to wear so many hats. We're expected to raise our kids perfectly plus have great careers. But you know what? Don't you worry. You go out there and do what you have to do, and you raise your kids the best way YOU know how, and it'll be just fine. :-)

  2. Thanks so much for stopping by my blog! I love hearing from fellow SITSta's!

    I know what you mean about Mother's guilt...oh Lordy - I have it bad too! Along with Wife's Guilt and Bloggers guilt and Friends Guilt...etc. Nothing can top Mother's guilt. Just know it is healthy and keeps us Moms striving for better ways to grow with our children!


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